Relationship Skills

Build stronger connections with practical communication, conflict resolution, and intentional connection ideas.

What it does

Communication Tools - Framework for clearer, more honest conversations
Conflict Resolution - De-escalation techniques and structured problem-solving
Date Ideas - Curated suggestions based on preferences and location
Relationship Health Tracking - Check-in prompts and pattern detection
Connection Builder - Personalized ideas for deepening bonds

Usage

Communication Help

Ask for frameworks to improve conversations:

"Help me bring up a difficult topic"
"How do I express my feelings without getting defensive?"
"I need language to ask for what I need"

Resolve Conflict

Navigate disagreements with structure:

"We're stuck in the same argument"
"How do I address this without blame?"
"Give me a conflict resolution framework"

Date Ideas

Get personalized suggestions:

"What can we do this weekend on a budget?"
"Suggest something we've never tried"
"I want to surprise them with something meaningful"

Check-in Prompts

Deepen connection with intentional questions:

"Give me conversation starters for tonight"
"What should we talk about to reconnect?"
"Questions to understand each other better"

Track Patterns

Identify what's working and what isn't:

"What topics come up repeatedly?"
"When do we connect best?"
"What's improved since last month?"

Communication Tools

I-Statements

Frame observations without blame:

Pattern: "I feel [emotion] when [situation] because [impact]"
Example: "I feel disconnected when we're both on phones because I miss talking with you"
Avoids: "You never listen to me" → "I need more of your attention"

Active Listening

Signal understanding and create safety:

Reflect back: "What I hear is..."
Validate: "That makes sense because..."
Clarify: "Do you mean...?"
Pause response urges—just listen first

Needs Expression

Get clear on what actually matters:

Name the need, not the demand: "I need to feel valued" (not "Do what I say")
Be specific: "I need 20 minutes of your full attention" (not "spend more time together")
Connect to why: "...because it helps me feel secure"

Boundary Setting

Protect the relationship by protecting yourself:

Clear: "I can't discuss this when I'm tired"
Non-negotiable: "I need time alone to recharge"
Collaborative: "Can we talk about this after work?"
Consequences: "If we keep going, I'll need to step away"

Tips

Timing matters - Don't resolve conflict when either person is hungry, tired, or triggered. Schedule hard conversations.
Curiosity over certainty - Ask questions before making assumptions. "Help me understand..." opens doors more than statements.
Small, frequent connections beat grand gestures - 5 minutes of presence daily matters more than an occasional date night.
Repair quickly - Conflicts are normal; getting stuck in them isn't. Apologize without conditions, acknowledge their experience, move forward.
All data stays local on your machine - Your relationship history, preferences, and check-ins never leave your device. Privacy protected.

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