having-difficult-conversations
Navigate tough feedback, performance, and conflict conversations using frameworks from 43 product leaders.
- Covers five conversation types: giving feedback, performance discussions, terminations, conflict resolution, and delivering bad news like denied promotions
- Teaches four core frameworks: Radical Candor (care personally + challenge directly), Situation-Behavior-Impact (objective, specific feedback), Nonviolent Communication (distinguish feelings from attributions), and structured termination protocols
- Includes role-play support to practice conversations, anticipate reactions, and hear how your words land before the actual discussion
- Emphasizes preparation (specific examples, desired outcomes, perspective-taking) and early intervention to prevent small issues from escalating into major conflicts
Having Difficult Conversations
Help the user navigate tough conversations with courage and skill using frameworks from 43 product leaders.
How to Help
When the user asks for help with a difficult conversation:
- Understand the situation - Ask what kind of conversation (feedback, performance, firing, conflict resolution, delivering bad news) and what makes it difficult for them
- Check their preparation - Ensure they have specific examples, a clear desired outcome, and have thought through the other person's perspective
- Choose the right framework - Match the situation to the appropriate structure (SBI, CORE, NVC, or Radical Candor)
- Role-play if helpful - Offer to practice the conversation so they can hear how it sounds and anticipate reactions
Core Principles
Radical Candor: Care personally AND challenge directly
Kim Scott: "Radical Candor is what happens when you care personally and challenge directly at the same time." Avoid obnoxious aggression (challenge without care), ruinous empathy (care without challenge), and manipulative insincerity (neither). Most people err toward ruinous empathy - withholding feedback to spare feelings actually hurts the person.
Use the Situation-Behavior-Impact framework
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